Grab your popcorn, folks, because today…. it’s a rant. I don’t even really know if this post is going to make sense to anyone. But sure here goes.
Unless you’ve been living under a rock, I’m convinced that you will have heard of the “friend-zone”. Basically, the friend zone is a made up realm of absolute bullshit. It’s a defence mechanism to protect us from the feeling of rejection. If someone “friend-zones” you, it means that they have ruled out any chance of being in a relationship with you, because they only see you as a friend.
I know girls are completely guilty of it as well, but I’ve only experienced it with men, so that’s what I’ll be speaking about. Why do some men feel the need to say they were “friend-zoned” when the word ‘friend’ already exists? Declaring yourself as “friend-zoned” is simply just a way of protecting your ego.
Have you ever thought, that we just don’t fucking like you that way?
I’m sure you’re a nice person, otherwise we wouldn’t be friends. And I’m sure you’re right for someone. But why can’t you just accept that a girl isn’t interested in you. No, it isn’t because she “friend-zoned” you and so hasn’t “given you a chance”, it’s because she doesn’t see you in that way. Probably never has, probably never will.
Another complete bullshit I’ve heard lately is that “girls don’t go for nice guys”. No, of course, you’re completely right, I actually spend my days trying to sniff out complete arseholes to fall head over heels for. Can you detect my sarcasm? In my experience, any guy who says that phrase, is in fact, NOT a nice guy. It comes from such a place of entitlement. “I’m a lovely guy, why aren’t girls falling all over me??” Maybe have a look at the traits you’re valuing?
Men who are compassionate, kind, caring, supportive, accepting, understanding, intelligent and ambitious are those I choose to be with. No longer will I ever settle for less.
Am I the only one who is incredibly irked by the word “friend zone” and the phrase “girls don’t go for nice guys”? Let me know you’re thoughts in the comments below.
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